From Doubt to Trust: How I Learned to Create My Own Reality

To lead an authentic life and truly enjoy your life, is not that difficult. That's my conclusion after years of self-reflection, personal development, spiritual development, scientific research, and applying the results of that research to myself and to countless others. However, we do need to look at a number of things fundamentally differently. If we look at those things fundamentally differently, it's actually simple to lead a beautiful life.

I Was the Cause of My Own Struggles

I discovered what I did until my 57th year that led to a life with a lot of hassle: on a relational level, on a financial level, on a social level. I was the perpetrator of my misfortune. I always knew that life didn't happen to me, that I created my own reality. I've always deeply experienced this perspective. I'm not a victim of life. Many people think that things happen to them, but I never believed that. I always felt that I was the cause myself.

The Trap of Guilt

If you are the cause yourself, you can easily end up in guilt. I also suffered a lot from that. The mechanism is then as follows: okay, I'm going to do it this way. That particular way doesn't work out. And you see it as your mistake. But that's really a wrong way of looking at it. Because if you had known beforehand that that particular approach wouldn't work, you would never have done it. Guilt is always intentional. There's nothing intentional about this. So if you create your own life, this doesn't mean you're guilty of the fact that it hasn't turned out the way you prefer yet.

Working Harder Isn't the Answer

What unfortunately does happen, is that you let yourself be guided by that guilt. I then started working even harder. And I see many of my clients doing that too. They push even harder because they feel guilty. While, as I said, that guilt is unjustified.

The Hidden Saboteur: Doubt

Another, perhaps even bigger pitfall, is that you actually don't believe that you create your own reality. I just indicated that I always believed that I created my own reality. However, that certainly often came with doubt. I had then chosen a new path, for example Dzogchen meditation, with the hope and expectation that my life would change. But that didn't happen. Then you do start doubting.

Doubting means nothing other than that you have trust in a belief that stands next to the real belief. So I could have trust that I created my own reality, but the moment it didn't work out, I also had a belief that said... you need to try something else. And the doubt kicked in. The belief that fit with my authentic self was then snowed under by other beliefs. You believe that you create your own reality but still not sometimes. Clear, right?

The Breakthrough: Letting Go of Internal Struggle

The breakthrough came when I understood that it wasn't about working even harder or trying yet another method. It was about recognizing and letting go of that underlying doubt. To stop splitting myself into contradictory beliefs. As soon as I fully started trusting my ability to create my own reality, without that constant internal struggle, everything began to shift.

The Simple Truth About Authentic Living

The beautiful thing is: this insight is accessible to everyone. You don't have to search or struggle for years like I did. It only requires that you look at yourself honestly, let go of your guilt, and stay consistent in what you truly believe. Not because you have to, but because it fits with who you authentically are.

And that's ultimately the simplicity I was talking about: an authentic life doesn't ask for perfection, but for consistent trust in yourself. Without doubt, without guilt, without the feeling that you need to run even harder. Just being who you are, and creating your reality from that place.